Americans are far from prudish, but a recent nationwide survey suggests a growing number are spending less time in the bedroom - at least in part because they aren't enjoying themselves. More than 38 percent of respondents in an Ipsos North America survey for the Sinclair Institute said they have sex a dozen times or less a year. About 70 percent say they are not totally satisfied with their sex lives.
Still, most Americans are content with their existing sexual knowledge and are uncomfortable getting sexual advice or information for reasons ranging from religion to fears of being seen in adult boutiques. Such is the state of sex in America, according to the survey of more than 1,650 adults over age 30 conducted in October. But not all is gloom and doom for the American libido. In an effort to keep the sheets warm, 40 percent of Americans are adding vibrators, little blue pills and adult videos to their foreplay routines.
Sex and relationship experts are heartened to see Americans try to improve their sex lives, but warn quick fixes won't solve a relationship's underlying problems, or make couples feel more amorous toward each other. "A new position or toy may spice things up temporarily, (but) if a couple has relationship issues outside the bedroom that will more times than not interfere in the bedroom," said Mark Schoen, a human sexuality expert and director of sex education at the Sinclair Institute, a leading source of sexual health education and information. Plenty of books and experts are available to help a couple's relationship. But there are few credible choices for improving couples' sexual knowledge. One source recommended by sexual health educators and therapists is the Sinclair Institute, which has more than 15 years of experience developing products and video programs in cooperation with noted experts. Videos like the Institute's all-new Better Sex Video Series(R): Sexplorations are important teaching tools, sexual health educators and therapists say, because seeing a technique on screen is much easier than trying to explain it in print or, even, in pictures.
"I have used explicit visuals from Sinclair with university students, with parents, teachers and professional audiences," said Ronald Moglia, a professor of applied psychology at New York University. "There is no better method to get people to confront important issues in sexuality education." A growing number of Americans agree, the survey reported. Nearly 37 percent of those who have never used a sexual education video said they would consider buying one. The data collected in the survey also shows most people aren't sure what their sex lives will look like in the future. About 10 percent plan to manage their sexual well-being, while 13 percent believe the quality of their sex lives will degrade over time. The rest either don't think about the future or have no idea what it holds for them. That may sound bleak, but with accurate education and the right resources experts say everyone can have a lifetime of better sex.